Making the City Of Joy gave me the best political education of my life. It became a wrestling match between an Englishman who had gradually ceased to be a Marxist and a culture that was becoming more Marxist by the day.
I put my career in second place throughout both my marriages and it suffered. I don't regret it. You make choices. If you want a good marriage you must pay attention to that. If you want to be independent go ahead. You can't have it all.