I think it's been hard for people to understand how Islam can be a good religion and yet the Islamists are evil. Those of us who have had experience with Islam understand this just as we understand the difference between snake handlers and people going to church on Sunday morning.
Sometimes I wish that there were a way to let people know that just because I live in a world without rules and in a life that is lawless doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt so bad the morning after.