I think everyone should experience defeat at least once during their career. You learn a lot from it.
When I work a game as an analyst all I do is look at the game like a coach.
It evolved from my experience in the fifties growing up during the McCarthy...
We busted a lot of family secrets with this. But to make a long story short my parents relationship was built heavily on security issues for my Mom and when my Dad couldn't provide security the relationship unraveled.
