I think with motherhood and child-rearing in general everyone's going to tell you how to do it and why. I've always said to other mothers and women when they've asked me that you have to find your own way and find out what works for your family at all costs.
We take so many of our freedoms for granted nowadays - I can travel where I like I can have a baby when I like I can do any job I want - but I do think chivalry has been lost a little bit.