I think there is a real misconception about Indian food being super spicy. And I know that's because when you go into an Indian restaurant it is pretty spicy. But it doesn't have to be. In fact my husband can't handle a lot of heat. I've had to temper my cooking so that he can eat with me.
Imagine if every Thursday your shoes exploded if you tied them the usual way. This happens to us all the time with computers and nobody thinks of complaining.