Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others.
On a soap happiness never lasts for very long!
It's a very complex scenario and certainly Dave was and is not the only person in Pearl Jam with personality flaws. Everybody in this band exhibits some form of neurotic behavior. And we couldn't find a balance a mutual respect for each other.