Yes women and men have to be open to love because if we're not open then there's no way for us to find happiness. But you can be open to it and still have no control over when it's going to happen.
My mom would be leaving the house and she'd say 'Don't you pull out all of the old dresses in the attic and put on a show again!' And the door would close and that's exactly what I'd do. The show was calling me!
