A desire arises in the mind. It is satisfied immediately another comes. In the interval which separates two desires a perfect calm reigns in the mind. It is at this moment freed from all thought love or hate. Complete peace equally reigns between two mental waves.
I try to be a hard boiled sometimes. My kids see right through it. I'm acting. It's always 'When I say you'll be back at 11 that means 11 not 11.15. Do you hear me!?' Then 'Yeah Dad.'