The only real security is not in owning or possessing not in demanding or expecting not in hoping even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was nor forward to what it might be but living in the present and accepting it as it is now.
The relationships that people have - that are sexual psychological emotional - these relationships are not open to supervision by parents schools churches or government. Nobody has any right to intervene at all in any kind of relationship like that.
