Because society places a value on masculinity gay men aspire to it. If you go to a gay club and the doorman says 'You do realise this is a gay club don't you lads?' you get all excited because you think 'Wow he thought I was straight!'
My ambition was to stop waiting tables. That was how I measured success:...
The whole system of society tells you what to do.
The competitor to be feared is one who never bothers about you at all but goes on making his own business better all the time.
