I wish my parents hadn't made me feel that how I looked was linked to how much they loved me. But I do also see how hard it must be to see your child pile on the pounds and trust they'll find their own way back to a healthy weight.
What I look for when I see a piece of art for the first time is some kind of emotional intellectual experience that's a combination of both of those things and is informed by my knowledge and something new that I see the artist doing.
