A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth to say no. That's where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully. It's having backbone.
If you're working for a good company and you're happy there and you're being...
Tell the truth work hard and come to dinner on time.
That's the way I got along in life. I don't ever remember being particularly jealous of anybody because I figured if I can't do it myself I don't deserve to get it.