I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living one where you do what you want to do pursue your passions. That way if you meet someone they'll be joining a life that's already really good.
If you ask men why they did a good job they'll say 'I'm awesome. Obviously. Why are you even asking?' If you ask women why they did a good job what they'll say is someone helped them they got lucky they worked really hard.
