I moved to New York last year and I love it. It's a huge change and I've always wanted to spend time there. It's like a more intense London and everything's up a few notches. The lights are brighter the pace is faster and the food's better.
I don't think balance is something you get from someone else it's something...
You do have to change things as warfare changes.
Without hurting anybody we all tend to laugh at others' discomfort. When someone slips on a banana skin and falls it's funny.