In a way song writing can almost be detrimental because suddenly you find an outlet that is a kind of cheating. You don't need to have direct communication. You can say 'I can't describe it to you but I will record it and send it to you.'
Anybody can become angry - that is easy but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.