If we get our self-esteem from superficial places from our popularity appearance business success financial situation health any of these we will be disappointed because no one can guarantee that we'll have them tomorrow.
I don't care whether people like me or dislike me. I'm not on earth to win a popularity contest. I'm here to be the best human being I possibly can be.
The wisdom of crowds works when the crowd is choosing the price of an ox when there's a single numeric average. But if it's a design or something that matters the decision is made by committee and that's crap. You want people and groups who are able to think thoughts before they share.