Girls are taught to sing high and pretty like Antony not low and from the guts like Nina Simone. But we're slowly trying to change that. There are so many things we're not told growing up and it's our true feminist responsibility to take the truth to the people who need to hear it.
To deal with the stark reality of having hit or hurt a woman or child to deal with the initial responsibility you have not to do that and the knowledge you did do it can be incredibly hard.