Truth is I'll never know all there is to know about you just as you will never know all there is to know about me. Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind a dash of optimism and a great deal of candour.
If you don't want women to do whatever they need to do then you must provide them with food you must provide them with shelter and their basic human rights.