It seems I have a hard time being attracted to someone unless I respect what they do on some level. Otherwise I would feel disdain for them. Which is not always pleasant in a relationship. Sometimes it's fun though.

Marriage is a reflection of your life in general: how you treat people how you argue how secure you are in your own thoughts. How vehemently do you argue your point of view? With what disdain do you view the other's point of view?

I never feel so utterly fraudulent as when I review a movie whose charms impress all in the world and I simply do not get it. The other variant is that I love something the world disdains. This has had severe career consequences: I am still famous - or notorious - in certain quarters where I am recalled as the man who liked 'Hudson Hawk.'

The most common error made in matters of appearance is the belief that one should disdain the superficial and let the true beauty of one's soul shine through. If there are places on your body where this is a possibility you are not attractive - you are leaking.