I think that the best way to explain that is that my mother gave me all the color and character and flare and liveliness and my father gave me all the sanity and nature and all the things that helped me be a more rounded human being.
There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow when we have not yet known what it is to have suffered and be healed to have despaired and have recovered hope.