Good politics starts with empathy proceeds to analysis then sets out values and establishes the vision before getting to the nitty-gritty of policy solutions.
We all seek approval and our mother's seal is usually the most important. The nitty gritty is that we have to accept ourselves even if it is just to be ready for the next cut-down. Mom's blessing or not.
I'll promise to go easier on drinking and to get to bed earlier but not for you fifty thousand dollars or two-hundred and fifty thousand dollars will I give up women. They're too much fun.