As all of us with any involvement in sports knows no two umpires or no two referees have the same strike zone or call the same kind of a basketball game.
No matter how calmly you try to referee parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior and I'm not talking about the kids. Their behavior is always normal.
It's a tough thing to know what to do about a war that deep in your gut you feel is wrong and yet watch your peers going off to fight in that war.