The people on my mum's side of the family are atheist intellectuals who are ueber-proper. My dad's side of the family are missionaries who are more comfortable sitting around in sweatpants than they are in a five-star restaurant. But those two influences converged in my life.
In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way.