When Demetrie got sick we knew it was our responsibility to take care of her and pay her medical bills. And we embraced that. But the tricky part is like so many families in the South we also expected her to use a separate bathroom to use separate utensils.
Every contrivance of man every tool every instrument every utensil every article designed for use of each and every kind evolved from a very simple beginnings.
You can only do your best. That's all you can do. And if it isn't good enough it isn't good enough.