I like to have a massage therapist come to my house get a massage take a bath go to bed. That's a perfect night alone for me.
If you're truly in a band and you guys have been together for a long time there's a family bond that you have. In fact I've talked about this with therapists especially if you're talking about a relationship because when you're with somebody you're going to your family and she's alone.
While there have been terrific advances in the state of technology around heuristics behavior blocking and things like that technology is only a part of the approach to solving the problem with the more important aspect involving putting the right process in place.